November 12th, 2009
10:11 AM ET
Another reality

Cindy Comstock has been a familiar face to me for several years, but I didn’t know her name or her fascinating story for most of that time. I would see her once in a while at my health club, either teaching a cardio dance class or taking one and always having a great time.

One day, I heard her tell someone, “I am the mom of eight kids,” which pretty much floored all of us within earshot. Another time, she mentioned that her husband was in Iraq. It struck me that you never really know how unexpected or complicated the life of the stranger next to you may be.

I thought about pitching Cindy’s story as a potential article for CNN.com, but I didn’t know much beyond what she had mentioned in passing at my health club.

A couple of months ago, I ran into her at the front desk and stopped to chat. Was her husband still in Iraq? No, she said, he’s about to go to Afghanistan. Did she really have eight kids? She assured me she did. “You’re kind of a real-life Octomom,” I joked, and she smiled, but I immediately saw that she bristled at the comparison.

We talked about that moment during our interview several weeks later, and she pretty much just shook her head when I mentioned Nadya Suleman. Cindy’s reality seems so much different.

Read her full story.

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November 12th, 2009
1:25 pm ET
 

This story is great. It is a "real family". Not just someone taking fertility pills to get attention. They had the kids they could love and afford and stopped when they realized it was time. Good parenting is what makes kids happy and responsible. There are probably a lot more real people out there who have kids for love and not for attention. They survive off their hard work and not government checks or reality show funds. These are the kids who grow up to be responsible Americans, well adjusted and self-sufficient.

Posted by: JD Totey
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November 12th, 2009
1:35 pm ET
 

THANK GOD THERE ARE STILL GOOD MOMS OUT THERE!! WHAT A REFRESHING
STORY TO READ ABOUT A FAMILY THAT IS TYPICALLY HEADED BY A FAITH-
DRIVEN MOTHER DOING WHAT NEEDS TO BE DONE. I STOPPED AT 2 CHILDREN
THAT WAS MY CHOICE–IF I WAS MARRIED I MIGHT HAVE HAD MORE.
I KNOW WE WILL BE HEARING MORE GOOD NEWS FROM THE COMSTOCK
FAMILY AND I HOPE CNN WILL KEEP US UPDATED ON ALL THE GOOD NEWS TO COME.

Posted by: Reola Buckins
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November 12th, 2009
1:49 pm ET
 

This is a great story and a great family. My two graduate from college soon, one this spring and the other the next spring. Sometimes wish we had more but you do the best you can with what god gives you.

Posted by: RichP
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November 12th, 2009
1:53 pm ET
 

My husband and I raised 9 kids, yours mine and ours all living under the same roof and I wouldn't trade it for anything! We had a blast and I honestly think the kids kept us young. The looks and comments I used to get as I trooped through with our brood were pretty funny, but I don't find anything amusing about Octomom or Jon and Kate.

Large families and moms with more than a coupe of kids are NOT a freak of nature and I really dislike the reality shows that don't truly show the reality of raising a large family or the people hoping to cash in on the novelty of having large numbers of kids.

All of them are grown and gone now – the youngest is 22. We lost two of our brood to cancer within the past few years and my husband passed away ten years ago. But the love and joy we invested in our kids paid off during the tough times and we helped each other weather the storms in ways that I'm not certain a smaller family unit could have managed quite so well.

But whether you have 1 or 1 dozen there are wonderful things about raising kids that will always enrich your life if you let them. And no reality show or media attention will ever come close to your own reality.

Posted by: K. DeCrane
5
November 12th, 2009
2:09 pm ET
 

LOL!! I read the story just to see if my grocery budget was out of line!!! I have 7 kids 13 and under. God bless her –she is a REAL Mom not some "made for TV" persona!!! Her faith is inspiring!!!

Posted by: M Rose
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November 12th, 2009
2:11 pm ET
 

What an awesome lady! Wonderful story, thanks CNN

Posted by: Nana
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November 12th, 2009
2:12 pm ET
 

I am also from a family of 10 – eight children – and we also had 4 boys and 4 girls. I loved it! I am so glad to hear of other families that are healthy and larger than the average. I also am encouraged to hear of parents who are willing to put financial comfort on the back burner for something so much more important than money. I am so thankful for my family and love each and every one of them!

Posted by: R. Been
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November 12th, 2009
2:15 pm ET
 

Thank you for sharing this story about the Comstock family. Cindy is amazing and truly a joy to be around. Her spark of life is energizing, contagious and inspiring. It's the real thing. I don't know how she does it but after being around her you want to be a better person and enjoy life a lot more. I know because she is my oldest daughter. Whenever Cindy is around you just can't help but laugh and have fun. Her eight children are a joy to be around, each with their different personalities and talents.

Thank you CNN, This story should give people hope because it is not pretend it is real.

Posted by: Marcia L. Iannone
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November 12th, 2009
2:51 pm ET
 

It's definitely refreshing to hear from a family that isn't just in it for the limelight.

My husband and I have a blended family – he had 3 kids and I had 4 when we met. We've been together 3.5 years and are now expecting our first together – any day now! So that will make 8. We have all the kids (ages 8 to 16) with us full time except for every other weekend when some of my kids go to visit their Dad.

People are shocked when they hear about such a large family, and especially with the complication of being a blended family. But we feel very blessed and it's inspiring to hear other peoples' stories too.

Thanks to CNN for sharing the Comstock's story!!

Posted by: Erica L./
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November 12th, 2009
2:52 pm ET
 

What a beautiful family! Mom, you are truly amazing. I want to read more stories like this one. It's inspiring to see people “loving” each other and being a “family”. Family is very important to me. I agree with Cindy, let your children’s friends come over and hang out at your house, it’s the best way to get to know them and be apart of their environment. Thanks CNN.

Posted by: L York in Texas
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November 12th, 2009
2:55 pm ET
 

Cindy and her family are amazing. I can relate to rearing a bunch of children. Married at 17 back in the seventies, I had six children, three boys and three girls. Life was extremely busy and expensive. I can remember that when the children needed shoes, I would purchase one or two pair every bi-weekly payday. By the time I got around to the last child, my oldest son's shoes where looking pretty shabby so the cycle started again! But, you know, those where the days! Our Thanksgivings and Christmases are wonderfully loud, crazy events. I always wanted a large family, as a young girl growing up in a family of three girls and two boys. Because my parents both are only children, even as a child, I felt that having a large family and lots of relatives would be much better. My youngest child was just married October 17th, and she is 28 years old. My oldest daughter unfortunately was killed August of 2008 at age 31. There are nine grandchildren. Now I am fifty-five, a divorced empty-nester and ever so grateful for my huge family.

Posted by: Brenda
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November 12th, 2009
2:55 pm ET
 

A truly honest family unlike those shown on a "reality" TV series. This family is together through the good times and the bad, and will remain in the background to just be a family. Very encouraging.

Posted by: nana
13
November 12th, 2009
3:10 pm ET
 

I can relate, my wife and I are raising Triplets and Twins ages 9 and 7, very busy lives, but the rewards are great!

Posted by: B
14
November 12th, 2009
3:14 pm ET
 

My vet in East Cobb has 10 children as of 2008. Lovely family

Posted by: Radha
15
November 12th, 2009
3:19 pm ET
 

Thank you for writing this story! It is so nice to ready some real people with real values trying to raise real kids – THAT'S reality!! Keep choosing the right Comstocks!!

Posted by: Debbie Brown
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November 12th, 2009
3:25 pm ET
 

Nice!!! good story.

Posted by: Maribel H
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November 12th, 2009
3:32 pm ET
 

Great article!! My husband and I are raising my 3, his 3 plus we've got my oldests boyfriend and their daughter and we've inherited a 2 year old that we are getting guardianship of....Life has it's ups and downs but we aren't given anymore than we can handle!

Posted by: Diana
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November 12th, 2009
3:35 pm ET
 

Great story . I lived in Baltimore and am the last of 9 children. We were raised in a Baltimore row house. The row had 6 homes in this group. At one time there were 39 maybe more, children in this group of row houses all with mothers and fathers.
There must have been something in the water. Ha Ha

Posted by: George Schriefer
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November 12th, 2009
3:41 pm ET
 

My wife and I have fostered eleven and adopted six beautiful children, all unique and from different races (Mexican, African american, American IIndian, caucasian, etc.). They are ages 8 to 2. We also have three bilogical siblings from previous marriages that are ages 17 to 30 years with five grandkids! Raising a large family of young'ns has many challenges, to be sure. However, I would not trade the experience for anything. I always tell people "It is the hardest thing you will ever do, but also the most rewarding". There are hundreds of thousands of children in the foster system just in the U.S. alone that need families that will take them in and make a "home". Living in group homes, many of these chlildren don't have the opportunity to experience real love and don't know what "home" is.

I love reading stories of large families, such as the one in this article. However, I will say having the father away for extended periods makes me take my hat off to the mom! It is hard enough for us to raise our wonderful children between my wife and I, working as a team. I can't imagine only one of us doing it on our own! Wow. Hats off to this family and good fortunes to all as each finds his/her calling in the future, perhaps raising large families of their own. Looking forward to all of the grand-kids is another reward that will come!

Posted by: Nine-o Dad
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November 12th, 2009
3:57 pm ET
 

Wonderful story! I'm a Mom of 6 kid (18 16 14 7 7 and 4) and loving every moment of it. There is just one thing I really hate...... When folks automatically assume your on some kind of state aid because of the large number of kids. Over the years I have learned to respond to such comments as "I'm sure I am paying for them!" with comments like, "well no, but if you would like I could start sending you some of their bills". Large families are wonderful I would not trade my life for anything.

Posted by: Christine
21
November 12th, 2009
4:13 pm ET
 

Ahh...a truley refreshing story on the enduring human spiritl....This woman deseres the Mother Nation award. My father (RIP) came from a family of 13..imagine that...they actually grew their own food, and had a chicken pen for their meat..hand me downs were a must. My Grandmother cleaned churches for income after my Grandfather was flatten by heart troubles....she too lived her faith through raising such a large family. I appreciate that CNN inclcuded her comments that faith and prayer is what sustained her in raising her eight children. Great article!

Posted by: S Callahan
22
November 12th, 2009
4:17 pm ET
 

What a refreshing and beautiful story about family, hard work and sacrifice.

Posted by: Diane
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November 12th, 2009
4:24 pm ET
 

What a wonderful, positive story!! I have six boys and when they were smaller, we used to get lots of comments, some offensive, but mostly positive. Strangers would compliment us on our boys' behavior when we had the whole family in a restaurant. Raising great kids isn't impossible, but it does require your undivided attention. I think when you have a large family, kids learn to share their possessions and their problems. They have a built in support system and lots of eyes to monitor their behavior. There are times when an older brother has much more influence with one of our younger boys than I could ever have. I am blessed more than words can ever say!!

Posted by: Momx6boys
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November 12th, 2009
4:54 pm ET
 

Wonderful story. My daughter has nine children, home schools the younger ones and is in the middle of planning the wedding of her eldest daughter. Ask a busy person to help you and you'll get the help you need and it will be done to perfection. Thank you for this story.

Posted by: Linda Adams
25
November 12th, 2009
6:34 pm ET
 

How lucky these kids are! I came from just such a large family, but without the loving mother. She had enough love for the oldest, but the rest were just worker bees. Lots of damage if you don't have a committed mom.

Posted by: Lisa
26
November 12th, 2009
7:25 pm ET
 

Love this story!! I am a mom of 6- 12,6,4,2,1,6 months. My husband is in the Navy and it is nice to see a story about a mom who is having to do it partially alone. I am so tired of the reality shows who make large families seem disfunctional. thank you to Cindy for showing that large families can be a "normal" family!!

Posted by: Julie
27
November 13th, 2009
1:17 am ET
 

A refreshing story without a lot of glitz – I liked that. I enjoy reading about other Moms with big families, and always look for the chance to learn some new tips. I am the same age as the Mom in this story, with my husband and I celebrating our 25th next year. We've had ten children together, plus raised one more from his previous marriage, and they are all wonderful. We absolutely love all of our children dearly, despite the challenges with caring for so many, and we are so grateful to God for them.

Posted by: julie V
28
November 13th, 2009
2:30 am ET
 

thank you for posting this! I've got seven children, 13 and under, and this seems more like our reality – only we are lucky enough to have Daddy home for dinner every night and a lot of time off to spend together.
The reality shows do make it seem like more of a freak show. Yes, it's crazy if the laundry machines go on the fritz :) – but really, i don't think my seven children are any different from someone else's three children – all children need mamas who love them, clean clothes, healthy food, a daddy who loves them etc...
I liked seeing this real mama (like me!) and her normal brood – and i agree with the prayer thing, too – i think even moms of one child probably find that's true!

Posted by: stephanie
29
November 13th, 2009
11:17 am ET
 

I know this family personally and Cindy is amazing!!! I work at her childrens school and I have never seen her complain with all the running around that she does. Everytime I see her in the front office I tell her "you are amazing".

She is truly a role model to be followed.

Posted by: Diana
30
November 13th, 2009
1:15 pm ET
 

THANK YOU for this story! I am the mother of 7 and plan to have more. What is on TV is NOT reality. Most people with large families choose this and also choose to raise them on their own! The negativity toward large families is sad so reading your article inspired me and warmed my heart.

Posted by: Amy
31
November 13th, 2009
1:35 pm ET
 

Very inspiring. Praying the Lord will continue to bless her and her family.

Posted by: Bev
32
November 16th, 2009
12:02 pm ET
 

A comment to the "Comstock Kids": How fortunate you all are to have such wonderful parents. A father who will go half of the way around the world to feed and support you and a mother whom obviously has enough energy, faith and ambition to keep that world spinning on her own. What an awesome and uplifting story of the true meaning of love. Thank you CNN please continue to bring us more of this type of story.

Posted by: jer
33
November 16th, 2009
12:32 pm ET
 

Thank you CNN for finally giving a REAL family some kuddos! If I have to see the Gosselins one more time I will blechhhh....!

Posted by: Lori
34
November 17th, 2009
2:13 pm ET
 

I attend Cindy's Silver Sneakers class at the health club and I think she is just the greatest person. She takes an interest in all of her students and always asks how we are doing. In addition, she is an enthusiastic bubbly person and makes excercising fun. She always has a funny story to tell the class, And she is the sexiest mother of 8 I have ever know.
You rock, Cindy!

Posted by: Mary
35
November 21st, 2009
4:53 pm ET
 

Cindy's story is one that I wish could be told about every hard working mother. Hers is a story of giving and growing. Never perfect, never mistake-free, but full of love and determination. I have watched her grow from a freckled faced, red headed teen into an auburn haired woman of confidence and acheivement. What she has done, though special to me and my 8 children, is nothing more than millions of mothers around the nation–even around the world do every day. They stuggle, they overcome and they succeed.

I miss being with her and my children, they and the military I support are the reason I am here. I could not do it without the knowledge that she has the strength to carry the load. More than amazing–her choice to be what she is: a mom, a friend, a wife.

With all my love, John

Posted by: John
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